Hi, I’m Heather MacFadyen. Here’s a bit of my story…
God has been a part of my life since I prayed a simple prayer in Kindergarten. From 3rd grade thru 8th grade I was homeschooled (no, I never won a spelling bee…just the math pentathlon). After graduating from a Christian high school, I attended Taylor University in Upland, Indiana (right smack in the middle of the corn fields).
My freshman heart fell head-over-heals in love with an outgoing, optimistic, encouraging, 6ft 3in tall, skinny, curly haired senior named Bruce…my tall drink of water. On my golden birthday (21 on the 21st) he knelt outside of Taylor’s bell tower and asked me to be his wife. Besides the time spent in Upland for college, I had only ever lived in Carmel, Indiana. Once married all that changed. We moved to a different city every year for our first five years of marriage…Wheaton, IL, San Francisco, downtown Chicago, then settled in Dallas, TX.
After 6 years of marriage we celebrated the birth of our huge 9 1/2 pound son. Since my hubby has 3 sisters and his dad has 4 sisters, we were thrilled to have a boy and carry on the strong “MacFadyen” name. Little did we know 6 1/2 years (to the day!) after the birth of their 1st son, our 4th son would be born. 4 boys in exactly 6 1/2 years…yeah I think we’ve got that last name pretty well covered. One of those boys should be able to find a wife and make a couple of cute kids.
(Here’s a post where I introduce my boys: the Mac boys)
Motherhood is hard. Having four boys in such a short period of time is down right ridiculous. The needs are great. The sacrifices are many. Because of all the comforts and conveniences I’ve given up being a mom, I cling to my rights. I stubbornly demand to remain at the center of my life.
So, on a daily basis mothering four boys reveals my self-centeredness. All my “issues” boil down to one heart condition: pride. Like Spurgeon said, “You can either chose to be humble, or be humbled.” Motherhood is more about the change in me than in my boys. In order to become truly humble I must replace “me” with “He”, looking for His will for my days.
This blog chronicles my messy journey of “relentlessly replacing ‘me’ with ‘He’”. Sharing the daily struggle of remaining God-centered while mothering four wild-at-heart, energetic and often stubborn boys.
God has a big plan. I am one player in that plan. At this point in my life He has called me to love & train four boys. Before long they will be men & God will use each of them uniquely. My hope is too look back fondly at these years, knowing I was faithful to serve and love my family…despite all the mistakes & chaos!
To learn more about getting centered & staying centered…check out the series page.
To read about my struggle (& hope) when I found out my 4th child was another boy read here.
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