A few weeks ago I wrote about my latest realization…overtraining my boys (saying too much & not praying enough). Since writing that post, I’ve made a few more observations about the words that come out of my mouth… ~Five to One~ At a parenting seminar a few years ago, I learned: “A healthy relationship consists of 5 positive interactions for ...
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LOVE the quote “Say less, pray more.” I’m going to write that down so I can see it all day long! Thanks for sharing your parenting thoughts!
I love this post. I would say I side with your husband. I have FIRM boundaries, but within those boundaries I try hard to trust my kids. I feel the same as you in some aspects though because I do feel judged by other moms when they see me “not parenting” (or at least not helicopter parenting like they are). For example, I have a son who is relatively well behaved, but he likes to climb (as in, at the playground he doesn’t swing on the swings, he climbs like a koala bear up the poles that support the swing set itself and then smiles and says, “Look at me, Mom” at the top… that’s just always been his way). I have had MANY moms look at me in shock (and a few have even said something to me). And I just let him do it. He has always been that way and I don’t really see any disrespect in it, so why should I make him get down and do things “they way they were designed”… sometimes kids have more fun going up the slide than down, right?!?! I try to not let mommy-peer-pressure change my parenting style. It’s hard though. Makes me feel bad sometimes.
We have been dealing with this struggle or balance this year also. I am a typical helicopter mom and I realized one day that she needs the freedom to learn and discover things on her own. I have been experimenting on this for the last 4 months and so far it has worked out well. Funny that you brought up french parenting. We were in Vegas last week and a French family sat next to us. We both noticed how their little boy was definitely a “boy”, but yet they effortlessly controlled him and at the same time allowed him his freedom. They barely said a chasticing word to him. When he stood on the chair and started going after things, they quietly took him and sat him on their laps and held his hands, all while they carried on with their conversation. Afterwards, they sat him back on his chair and let him explore his area in front of him. They were content to let him explore the things in front of him that were not breakable and for him to shout out in laughter. It was a great balance and I remember that we both commented on how they allowed him to be a boy, but yet create a nice atmosphere for the rest of the family to enjoy their meal. They were not terribly childcentric at all. It was interesting to watch.
THANK YOU for the prayer calendar. I wonder if you have read the ebook. Is it definitely worth it? I am NOT a huge reader, so I prefer to buy it ONLY if you feel it’s an easy read and a must read. LOVE YOUR BLOG. Just came across it a few weeks back. Sometimes I feel like I am writing. LOL! I have three kids (2 being 3 year old twins.). I feel overwhelmed most days and cannot imagine a 4th. God knew you could handle it and I know some days are challenging, but you seem, from your writing, to be doing a wonderful job. Most importantly, you are LOVING your children by raising them to know CHRIST.
Kristin, if I were you I would go to the MOB Society website and sign up for the 21 days of prayer for sons. It starts up May 1st. Thanks for your encouragement!
I was blessed to land on your blog today! I am also a mom of 4 boys…ages 5 1/2, 4, 2, and 6 mos. Very close to yours, it sounds like. It is a challenge (to put it lightly!). I really appreciate this post. My husband and I have both felt lately that the boys just are not listening to us. And I really struggle with feeling like I am negative to them all day long. It’s constant discipline. Constant energy. I will pray for you, Heather, as I pray for myself in this boy-mom journey. May you sense His abundant mercy renewing you each & every day
oh sweet friend! we are definitely in the same boat. It’s challenging, for sure. I agree with you…constant discipline. constant energy. With an infant the sleep deprived momma doesn’t help. I just visited your blog and love it! (tried to comment but something didn’t work…i’ll try again!). God bless friend and hope to connect more!